Wedding Dresses for Older Brides: Women Over 40
by Tina Boomerina (Christina Gregoire)
Want to know what you can wear for your second wedding? Hey, what are the rules for wedding gowns when the bride is over 40, 50 or 60?
Well, there used to be lots of “rules”. Today, we call those rules “guidelines”. In other words, there are no rules, so you are free to imagine your wedding as whatever you want it to be. However, there is one rule about the blusher veil that I think you should follow. What do I know? I’m on my third marriage. That’s what I know.
My last wedding was a few years ago when I was 52. So, read about my common sense guidelines for all women over 40, 50, or even (gasp) over 60.
I’m sorry that I called you an "older bride" in the title. I had to do that so Google would lead you to my article. Hey, I’m teetering towards 60, and the word, “old,” has been expunged from my vocabulary (along with silver, golden, mature, and elderly), unless the word is absolutely necessary. And, whenever I hear the term “old lady”, I think of my hippie days. Back then, any man who uttered the sentence, “Sally’s my old lady,” meant that Sally was the speaker’s girlfriend, even when his “old lady” was only 18. So, I must confess that I refer to myself as an old lady from time to time, but I say it with a wink and a smile.
Bridal Gowns for Second Weddings - It's Your Party
If you are over 40, you are not a baby anymore. However, you are not a dried-up old (mature) hag, like some wedding sites imply.
If you have never been married, you can wear the traditional white get-up, along with a blusher veil (a net has bigger holes and looks like the photo of the cool red hat); however, if your three children will be your attendants, I don’t think you’ll fool anyone into thinking you are a virgin by wearing that veil. So, although a blusher veil is technically correct, I don’t think it looks right on a woman over 40. Netting on a hat or a fascinator is not the same as a blusher veil, and netting is elegant on any woman of any age.
Your Second Wedding?
If this is your second wedding (or your third or seventh wedding), you can wear a white dress and a shorter veil (not cathedral length) as long as the veil doesn’t cover your face. However, whether it’s your first or fifth wedding (Mazel Tov), you should feel free to wear an elegant blue evening gown, a black Gothic wedding dress, or a pair of pink pajamas, as long as you don’t wear that dreaded blusher veil.
Hey, no matter what marriage you’re on, you can wear any color you want. You are over 40 years old. You’re a big girl and you’re probably paying for your own wedding, so you don’t have to please mommy and daddy as much as a 20-something bride. So, if you like blue, wear blue (or white or green or lavender or drop-dead red).
I have read and reread several websites that talk about “mature bridal style”, which is funny because, when I was remarried at 52, I felt like my usual young and imperfect Baby Boomer self. The photo of the older blonde is a picture of me, so my advice is, as always, honest and based upon experience. My fiancé really wanted me to wear a white dress and veil, so I wore a 2-piece cream-colored gown with a little veil. I was hesitant, but it turned out to be an absolute gas.
Wedding Dresses for Women Over 40
Okay. Most of you don’t have the same body you had when you were 20, so there are two areas of your wedding dress that I would like you to consider:
The style you will choose for your dress, such as A-line, ballgown, mini, or sheath, is somewhat predetermined by your body type, but the wrong neckline or fabric can undermine everything. The neckline will frame your face, it will make you appear to be fatter or thinner, and it will be what people notice in your photos.
And, the fabric of some dresses can be too sheer or too shiny or too whatever... and can show every bulge. (article continues)
Keep reading about wedding dresses for older women on page two.